Stress is a harmful thing for a family, however, with the right coping techniques we can all improve!
Three things that we need to remember when is comes to coping is-
1. We need to have the right attitude.
2. If you cope before the problem then the problem will not seem as bad.
3. Reactions and Transitions need to be handled with caution and care.
Cloe Madana wrote a book called, Sex, Love, and Violence. She discusses how to work with a family who is under stress in order to help them out of their crisis. She first starts out by figuring out what happened to cause this crisis. She gets the background information before diving in. She then asks who was hurt and why they were hurt. Many people forget that usually during a crisis all family members were hurt the degree of the hurt may differ, but it just depends on the problem. Finally she helps them to understand two main points; Evil is always stupid and when there is violence it hurts the spirit. How this is not a religious conversation, but rather a truth conversation because most of the time when there is hurt there is pain and suffering that need to be dealt with. We can have our souls hurt or the spirit of ourselves hurt without making it a religious thing.
I believe that working this a crisis with your family when done correctly only makes it stronger. We need to support and love each other so that we can all achieve and not fail one another. The stronger we are at coping through stressors the easier it is to move on and get through hard times.
Be Kind to Others,
Gabby Smith
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